Common Sense, Day 2: “…As my equal is how I must treat you…”

Editor’s note: After yesterday’s post about Common went so well, I decided to do a series of posts from now until either the conservative right drops its opposition to the Chicago MC/Poet/Actor making an appearance at a White House event, or the event itself takes place. Trust me, there are plenty of songs in Common’s catalog to dispel this fallacious claim that he’s a “controversial” rapper known for “misogynistic, cop-killing lyrics.”

I will never forget the first time Common caught my ear. It was August 2000, and I was on US 75 North in the Dallas Metroplex – Plano to be specific – on my way home from my honeymoon to begin a new life with my wife. I had found a real R&B/Hip-hop station and was going to hang onto it until it became too fuzzy to hear. It was then that I heard “The Light,” off of Common’s album “Like Water for Chocolate.” That song is the subject of today’s Common Sense.

Here’s the link. Go listen to it, let it resonate in your dome, then come back and read the rest.

The timing of my first listen to this song was perfect. It’s a love song, an ode to special woman. It manages to be sweet without becoming saccharin. He is elevating his woman for the special being she is, without putting her on a pedestal and setting her up for a fall. The chorus samples Bobby Caldwell’s “Open Your Eyes.”

A notable line comes at about the 2:45 mark, when Common says, “Truthfully it’s hard trying to practice abstinence.” Yes. That’s right. A pro-abstinence message in a hip-hop song. Tell me again why the conservative right is going apoplectic?

So here are the lyrics. Go back and listen again, soak in the lyrics. This good man – and talented MC – is being slandered by the conservative right as a misogynist, and I won’t stand by and let it happen.

I never knew a luh, luh-luh, a love like this
Gotta be somethin’ for me to write this
Queen, I ain’t seen you in a minute
Wrote this letter, and finally decide to send it
Signed, sealed, delivered for us to grow together
Love has no limit, let’s spend it slow forever
I know your heart is weathered by what studs did to you
I ain’t gon’ assault ’em cause I probably did it too
Because of you, feelings I handle with care
Some niggas recognize the light but they can’t handle the glare
You know I ain’t the type to walk around with matchin’ shirts
A relationship is effort, I will match your work
I wanna be the one to make you happiest, it hurts you the most
They say the end is near, it’s important that we close..
.. to the Most High
Regardless of what happen on Him let’s rely

There are times.. when you’ll need someone..
I will be by your side..
There is a light, that shines,
special for you, and me..

It’s important, we communicate
and tune the fate of this union, to the right pitch
I never call you my bitch or even my boo
There’s so much in a name and so much more in you
Few understand the union of woman and man
Sex and a tingle is where they assumin’ it land
But that’s fly by night, for you and the sky I write
For in these cold Chi night’s moon, you my light
If heaven had a height, you would be that tall
Ghetto to coffee shop, through you I see that all
Let’s stick to understandin’ and we won’t fall
For better or worse times, I hope to me you call
So I pray everyday more than anything
friends we’ll stay as we begin to lay
this foundation for a family – love ain’t simple
Why can’t it be? Anything worth having you work at annually
Granted we’ve known each other for some time
It don’t take a whole day to recognize sunshine

There are times.. when you’ll need someone..
I will be by your side, oh darling
There is a light, that shines,
special for you, and me..

It’s kinda fresh you listen to more than hip-hop
and I can catch you in the mix from beauty to thrift shop
Plus you ship hop when it’s time to, thinkin’ you fresh
Suggestin’ beats I should rhyme to
At times when I’m lost I try to find you
You know to give me space when it’s time to
My heart’s dictionary defines you, it’s love and happiness
Truthfully it’s hard tryin’ to practice abstinence
The time we committed love it was real good
Had to be for me to arrive and it still feel good
I know the sex ain’t gon’ keep you, but as my equal
is how I must treat you
As my reflection in light I’ma lead you
And whatever’s right, I’ma feed you
Digga-da, digga-da, digga-da, digga-digga-da-da
Yo I tell you the rest when I see you, peace

There are times.. when you’ll need someone..
I will be by your side..
There is a light, that shines,
special for you, and me.